Tell me which bad boy you prefer, and I’ll tell you who you are

Time for a NEW personality test based on your favorite books, covers and characters, loves. As always, please don’t peek at the answers before you make your decision. Look at the covers and captions below (it’s important to consider the captions!), and decide which one speaks to you most. Ready? Here we go.

Ice fae king holding you captive.

Deal with the devil. He’ll make your deepest desire come true – for the tiny little price of your soul.

Vampire king with an obsessive need for your blood.

Celebrity vampire stalking you.

YOUR ANSWERS:

  1. (Lord of Winter). You have powerfully developed fantasy, and you crave a partner that is superior to you in that regard. That is often hard to come by. You love beauty, and may have certain dreams about how your ideal lover should look like. You need someone strong that can dominate you. If you have to choose between a love story and a life story, you will most probably choose the first. To you, a relationship without passion is not worth it. To you, there’s no point to stability and safety if your heart isn’t aroused in the only way that matters – through intensity and passion. Of course, that is also the kind of love that you offer, and will take nothing less in return.
  2. (Mister Dark). You don’t shy away from risk in matters of the heart. You’re definitely not afraid to play with fire, and you’ve probably done it often enough that you’ve learnt some stunts around it, too. A relationship with you is an adventure, often a rollercoaster ride. You can sure offer your partner some powerful sensations. It takes a daredevil to be with you, and some serious amount of Dark and Dangerous to get you going; a queen of the night at heart, whoever takes a chance on you is in for pleasant, electric surprises.
  3. (Prince of Blood). You’re not gonna believe this, but at heart, you’re the princess that every prince dreams of saving. You’re pretty traditional in matters of your heart’s desires, not trying to be original or pretending to want something else just for the sake of being “different” or “interesting” or even woke. You’re very clear about what you want and yes, it’s the vampire that craves your blood, because that means he’ll never want another woman besides you. What you crave most in a relationship is complete dedication. You would give up anything for a partner that can persuade you that you’re the apple of his eye. Problem is, you’re not very easy to persuade of that, are you? Your needs in order to feel emotionally safe are extreme, even if your demands might not be. You have no desire for freedom.
  4. (The Porcelain Prince). Let’s be honest here, you have a thing for painful relationships, don’t you? Maybe unrequited loves? But enough about the dark side of your emotional nature. You crave excitement in your love relationships, and periodically you need renewal. Stability? Yeah, it’s nice but not necessarily what you’re after. What you want is emotional stimulation. Having the undeterred attention of the one person you’re crazy about is your favorite way of feeling alive. It’s your own personal kind of high. To you, love should be something you can get drunk on, the one emotion that should replace any drug. You probably think that, if people had the love lives they truly craved, no one would turn to destructive substances. Of course, love can turn toxic and destructive too, but you probably think it’s worth it. Considering that you offer what you expect, you might be right, too.

Liked this? Check out the books in question, and it will be practically be like reading about yourself. Also, feel free to roam the site. THIS page has a wealth of personality tests for you to choose from, and please—let me know what you get. I’m super curious like that.

Tell me your celebrity crush, and I’ll tell you who you are

Yes, another personality test it is! For this one I got inspired by the American Music Awards.

Here is today’s drill. Tell me which member of the famous k-pop group BTS is your bias (crush in k-pop language), and I’ll tell you who you are. So which one of the seven idols is your favorite? If you don’t know the group, it’s okay. Take a look at their faces, and try to silence your mind while you do so. Choose with your heart—or your gut. People’s faces tell us who they are, so there’s a high chance this will work even if you don’t know the band. Once you’ve made your choice, read the interpretations below.

  1. RM (Namjoon)

2. Suga (Yoongi)

3. Taehyung

4. Jimin

5. J-Hope (Hoseok)

6. Jin

7. Jungkook

Interpretations:

  1. You have a great particularity—you see the weakness in the powerful. You’re tough and methodical, but that wasn’t always the case. You were once vulnerable. You used to feel insecure, not necessarily about your looks, but about your inherent value. You don’t admit to this often, but you wish someone would get the weight of the world off your shoulders, at least for little while—you do carry a lot of responsibility around. You crave a partner that you can look up to. You’re not often enough on the receiving end of kindness, understanding, and nice gestures. You’re probably starved for affection. You may find yourself in an unfulfilling relationship at the moment. You may be in a situation right now where you’re taken for granted. You feel your partner doesn’t support or appreciate you enough. You crave structure, reliability and, if we are to get really down to the nitty gritty, an earthy kind of sexuality that grounds you. It’s probable that your love life has been a mess for a very long time, you’ve had to fend for yourself in more ways than one for too long, and you crave feeling secure.
  2. You may find pleasure in suffering. You’re touched by and attracted to things that seem to be created from sadness. You’re attracted to the introverted and the pained, to genius and intelligence. You may be attracted to people whose ego is tightly connected with their minds. Also, you are very probably attracted to people who are at peace with their darker side, because you’re not as comfortable with yours. You seek connection to the greater powers of the universe. You have a protective nature, and you most probably have a robust and strong physical constitution, too. You may be good at sports and outside activities. You’re capable of deep trust, love and dedication. Once committed, you’re capable of sacrificing yourself for the sake of your loved one. Don’t get this wrong, but you thrive in a toxic relationship, as long as you can breathe in it. Attracted to people who challenge you. Attracted to people who have been hurt. You may find bruises sexy.
  3. Okay, listen—you may have a thing about seeking approval. It probably took you a long time to feel comfortable in your own skin, if you ever even felt that way. You may still have trouble accepting your own face when you look in the mirror, even though you’re probably very attractive to other people. You’re attracted to glamorous and mysterious things. You’re very creative, and you may be a good writer. You have all sorts of scenarios about ideal lovers in your head. When you’re first attracted to a person, it’s probably the look in their eyes that calls to you first. You’re attracted to the Romeo and Juliette type of scenarios. You may be prone to judge your own value by the kind of person that is interested in you. You’re not just attracted to beauty and pretty faces, but faces that tell a story. You tend to show people that you care about them by doing things for them. You may be subconsciously attracted to people who treat you badly. Just so you know, there’s something dramatic about your inner world, and your soul, that is unique, and can be deeply captivating.
  4. You’re attracted to taboos and all things forbidden. You would blow the laws of society to smithereens. You crave a love that is all or nothing, an affair that will shatter your world. You may be prone to self-destructive behavior, and may even crave relationships that push you in that direction. No experience is worth living for you unless it’s so intense that it shakes you to your core, even if it tears you apart. You crave personal power—and probably have more of it than you believe. You may have sadomasochistic inclinations, even though you may not be fully aware of them. You yearn to dive deeply into the world of emotions, and explore the most hidden depths. You’re not waiting for an angel to save you, but for a demon to drag you down into the nooks and crannies of your own emotional body. To you, five minutes of true emotional exaltation are worth a year of agony. That kind of exaltation is a kind of high that no drug can create. You’re possessive, magnetic, and non-compromising. Tough, vindictive, and loyal to a fault.
  5. You’re energetic, sociable, physical. You don’t enjoy emotional turmoil, at least not for the sake of it. If there’s a crisis between you and your loved ones, by all means, you’re willing to work through it, but you won’t make a way of life out of it. You like sunshine, joy, optimism. You don’t believe in the depth of gloomy intellectualism. To you, true redemption, happiness and even true knowledge can only be found in the light. You’re more willing to help an optimistic person out of a rut, than someone who dwells in darkness and depression on a regular basis. Not only are those people lost causes to you, but you have little tolerance for what people do to themselves by clinging to the same old patters. Sometimes, suffering is a choice, that is your motto, and you have little patience for that kind of people. But if you’re convinced someone genuinely needs help, you’re the first person to be there. Heck, you’ll often make it before the paramedics do. You’re most probably someone who works hard, and plays hard, too.
  6. You’re humorous, witty, light hearted, full of soul. You’ve probably been through a whole lot of dark stuff in your life, and you’ve had it. No more toxic relationships for you, thank you. Been there, done that, seen the bottomless bottom of Tartarus and you don’t want to see it again. You like people with nuances and different facets—people like yourself. You are multi-layered, multi-faceted, and you see things in people that no one else does. You appreciate physical beauty,  but only when it speaks of the inner one. You read people’s personalities on their faces, and a pretty face without a pretty heart is nothing but an image empty of meaning to you. You may have been through stuff so dark that you still need healing. You have a very keen appreciation of music, of sound in general, and you will hear and appreciate things that other people don’t even perceive. You’re a very good judge of character.
  7. Deep down, you’re attracted to things dangerous, scary, draconic even. Yours is the dungeon kind of sensuality. You’re all about dungeons and dragons in your emotional life. You want things you shouldn’t want, and you take delight in it. You’re earthy, and very sensual. On a level you can’t explain, you feel a strong connection between love and death. The kind of darkness that you crave isn’t the ‘commercial’ type. It isn’t the easily bearable, Fifty Shades kind of darkness, rather the Psycho type. Emotionally, you go places where others fear to tread. You admire determination and effort. They are two of your core values., along with discipline and dedication, even though, on the outside, you may be very feminine and sweet. You enjoy taking care of your loved ones in a traditionally feminine way, which includes cooking and tending to their wounds, whether physical or emotional. You’re a caregiver, a ‘mother’, but one with dark inner complexities.

Personality tests and fiction – what do Freud and Superman have in common?

This article is scheduled to appear on a friend-site next week as a guest post, but I thought I’d share it first with you, my readers and friends, who’ve been with me for a while now. It’s the backstory of the personality tests on this site, and of how they fuel my fiction.

While I am a writer of romantic suspense and mystery before anything else, I base my stories on accumulated knowledge of psychology and pharma (with which I have close contact through my work as a science translator). In my fiction I combine learned facts with imagination. My stories are mainly about talents becoming superpowers, and humans turning superhuman, but instead of going the beaten path of genetic engineering, my heroes go psych. What that means, exactly, and how is that related to the personality tests?

Well, the theory goes like this – humans are born with limitless potential; it’s the education we receive from family and society that limits us in time, that programs our minds; they teach us, for example, “we all have to die one day.” But do we? My fiction dares to question this universal truth, among other things. In my stories, unlocking the full human potential in order to make a character superhuman is a superpower in itself that requires great psychological finesse. But in real life I explore the human mind through personality tests that help readers discover who they are at the core, step by step. What is unique about you? What is your special talent (that may become a superpower, given the proper guidance)? Sure, you may be a wonderful but hopeless singer, thinking you share this talent with many others, but what you don’t know is that your voice has a unique vibration that no one else can produce. What does that vibration mean? And the questions can go on and on and on. Not to mention they can fuel countless stories.

While an in-depth personal profile or personal guidance is needed in order to answer the more exact questions, the personality tests on www.ana-calin.com will lead you step by step to discover the dark corners of your own mind. A while back I did a personal profile on a reader who became a close friend of mine, and I based my short story “Hyperion” on his alter ego – I’m waving at you, cuzz : ) The story is available here, if you’re ever curious. As for the personality tests, feel free to roam www.ana-calin.com for them, they’re free and some interactive. This is one of my favorites. Enjoy everything the site has to offer, and feel free to leave me a comment or write to me, if you like. You can find me on the blog, but also on Facebook and Twitter. If you have suggestions or would like to see personality tests with certain themes, by all means, I’d love to hear about it.

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Shocking Psychology Facts

Here is another top 5 Shocking Psychology Facts! And we’ll keep them coming, folks 🙂

  1. Critique harms more than it helps. Even a perfectionist will be caused to under perform if they’re criticized. There is no such thing as “constructive criticism.” If we are to criticize, we should start with praise, continue with our points of critique, and conclude with further praise.
  2. The bystander effect. When people are uncertain, they do what they see others doing, thinking that if others do it, it must be the right thing. That’s why people often stand around and watch other people being mugged or beaten – it’s often not fear, but self-doubt, mistrust in the own perception, which causes them to do what they see others do around them.
  3. People tend to be more honest when they feel someone is watching them, even if it’s only a picture on a wall.
  4. Depression doesn’t only affect the mind, but also the body. Studies show that “severe” depression causes cells to age, and makes people more susceptible to age-related disease.
  5. There is little difference between being in love and having obsessive-compulsive disorder. The biochemical reactions are almost identical.

 

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Personality Test – What do your Villain Statements say about you?

Now we’re down to the nitty-gritty! What does the villain in you say about your personality? Take this personality test to find out. Just like in the other personality tests before this one, take a look at the statements below and decide which one of them appeals to you most. Just like last time, try to base your decision on what your gut tells you rather than your mind. Ready? Here we go.

  1. „Villains often come with pretty faces.“
  2. “I might be the villain of my own story.”
  3. “There are only two kinds of people in the world: villains and smiling villains.”
  4. “If you have a gun, you can rob a bank. But if you have a bank, you can rob everyone.”
  5. “The question isn’t, ‘who is going to let me?’; it’s, “who’s going to stop me.”

Interpretations:

  1. You often felt hurt by the people you desired and admired; your experience makes you one of the few who can resist an abuser who uses charm to manipulate; you’re a mentalist, a people-reader, and should often be feared.
  2. You’ve often been standing in your own way; you might have inner programming that hinders you in either your professional field or your love life; or maybe both; you might be too profound for your own good and fail to desire the things society tells you that you should want.
  3. You have trust issues; there’s no one you can really call your best friend, which makes you a dangerous person quite often; you’re often intriguing for other people like a viper with sparkling scales.
  4. You understand what’s happening around you, and you’re often sick to have to be part of the system; you’re rebellious, often bitter, but very articulate; you often have an influence in your circle.
  5. You pursue success at all costs; you’re not a person of many scruples, nor are you willing to compromise; you might do it, but only temporarily and with the thought of revenge; you’re determined and focused; a force for good or evil, it’s only a matter of choice.

So what did you get? I’d love to find out, so please leave a comment with your choice if you care to share. Check out the many personality tests in the Personality Tests section above, or by scrolling down the Older Posts on the Home page. Looking forward to reading from you!

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What does your Philosophy Quote say about you?

What does your chosen philosophy quote say about you? Take this personality test to find out! As so often before, I’m going to ask you to take a look at the quotes below, go in a relaxed state, and decide which one appeals to you most of the five. Try not to decide on it mentally, but rather feel your choice.

  1. “Knowledge is power.” – Francis Bacon
  2. “Beauty is in the heart of the beholder.” – David Hume
  3. “And after all, what is a lie? But truth in masquerade.” – Lord Byron
  4. “An idiot doesn’t say many smart things, but a genius can talk a lot of nonsense.” – Garabet Ibraileanu
  5. “The heart has reasons that reason knows nothing of.” – Blaise Pascal

Interpretations:

  1. Your choice shows a powerful mind, an intellectual; reason is stronger than emotion more often than not; the mind and the heart struggle  with each other, and the mind always wins.
  2. Your choice shows a beautiful mind and kind heart; your innermost mood is generally sunny, you’re good natured and a gem in other people’s lives; altruistic and positive, you can be a well of good energy.
  3. You’re complex and contradicting, your soul goes to dizzying highs but also to abyssal lows; you’re painfully honest to yourself and you can wield a good choice of words.
  4. You don’t take anything for granted; you have an analytical mind, and you may often get hit by a “bird-eye” vision of the world in which everything seems strange or artificial.
  5. This may come as a complete surprise to you, but you have a mathematical mind; your reason is strong, even though you’re an emotional, nurturing person; your feelings are rooted and reliable; you’re realistic and grounded.

So what did you get? I’d love to read from you, so feel free to leave me a comment with your choice. Feel just as free to check out the many available personality tests in the Personality Tests section above, or by scrolling down the Older Posts on the Home page. Looking forward to reading from you!

Ana

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NEW personality test of the series What’s Your Calling

The time has come for a new quiz of the series What is Your Calling! This is a very subtle one, so try to go deep into yourself when making your choice. Still, try not to take more than 30 seconds in order to ensure that you stay true to your inner self. Don’t let anything and anyone influence you.

Which of the following activities do you most enjoy doing with your hands?

  1. Typing/writing with pens, etc.
  2. Knitting/pottering
  3. Painting
  4. Making knives; anything to do with metal.
  5. Cooking

Interpretations:

  1. You’re an intellectual; your mind is your sharpest weapon and it’s what can best serve your fellow humans. That unique something you can offer the world is of intellectual nature.
  2. You’re a creature of crafts; reliable and grounded, you’re useful to society in basic, indispensable ways. That unique something you can offer the world is related to the basis of all professions – crafts.
  3. You’re an artist at heart, but you can also blend the arts with crafts. You’re the decorator, the home-maker, the visionary, the one who can help others build a perfect home and a perfect family. You inspire people. You may challenge tradition.
  4. You’re a warrior, a defender or an attacker, depending on your cause. You’re dangerous and devious. The unique something you can offer the world is martial in nature, for defense or attack.
  5. You’re a nurturing soul. You’re the world’s healer, the doctor, the therapist, the kind heart, the accommodator, sometimes the mentalist. You may have certain inclinations to the occult.

Enjoyed this? Check out the Personality Tests section of this side and Older Posts at the bottom of the home page for many more tests and psych discussions. Stay tuned for a new quiz on Monday and more of this series and the series What Kind of Lover are You by Christmas.

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Personality test: How does this picture make you feel?

Please choose from the following the variant that best describes how looking at this picture makes you feel within the first seconds. You won’t believe what your choice can reveal about you.

  1. Safe, relaxed, peaceful
  2. Intrigued, excited, travel
  3. Old, loss of perspective
  4. Culture, history, smart, special
  5. Mystery, possibility, infinity

Interpretations:

  1. Your strength is: your inner world is your haven; it’s rich enough to feed an army.
  2. Your strength is: you’re electrifying, active, dynamic.
  3. Your strength is: you’re a creature of progress, modernity, you can make it in modern society. Might have to watch out for depression.
  4. Your strength is: you’re an explorer, a discoverer, and you have great eye for both details that matter and essentials.
  5. Your strength is: you’re fascinating, often compelling, huge inner world that can suck in like quicksand.

Of course, these are just sketches based on this quick choice. Take the many other personality tests that are available for you in the Personality Tests section on this site, and get much deeper insights about the still unknown corners of your personality. If want yet more, feel free to ask me for a personal profile. I’m always happy to hear from you! Leave your thoughts in a comment, and don’t shy away from making suggestions for further posts.

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Psychology Facts IV: Did you know that . . .

  1. People are happier when they’re busy. Being busy keeps them optimistic.
  2. Even the illusion of progress motivates people.
  3. 80% of people’s discussions are about what makes them unhappy.
  4. Some experts say that phobias might be memories transferred from generation to generation through the DNA.
  5. Your mind’s natural inclination is to think in symbols. That’s why it’s harder to learn poetry by heart than mentally “record” a movie.
  6. You subconscious mind can’t process negation. Few people know, but your mind doesn’t understand “I don’t understand,” it processes it the other way around. Read more here.
  7. People who laugh more are better able to tolerate pain – both physical and emotional.

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Psychology CORE FACTS: Did you know that . . .

  1. The lyrics in your favorite song express everything that you struggle to say or express to others?
  2. Usually, the people with the best advice are the ones with the most problems?
  3. If a guy stands with his legs apart while talking to a girl, it means he likes her?
  4. People who speak two languages may unconsciously change their personality when they switch languages?
  5. The most powerful way to win an argument is by asking questions. It can make people see the flaws in their logic?
  6. The way we talk to our children become their inner voice?
  7. People see you as being about 20% more attractive than you think you are?
  8. What we wear affects how we behave?
  9. People are 50% more likely to agree to what you ask them if you speak into their right ear and lightly touch their forearm?
  10. Anger triggers the region of the brain associated with honesty, that’s when the truth comes out?

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Psychology Facts III: Did you know that . . .

 

  1. People spend an average of 6 years dreaming?
  2. Babies dream almost the entire time inside the uterus?
  3. Around 12% of people dream only black-and-white?
  4. They say that, if you have dreams that cause you powerful emotions, with luminous and colorful images, it’s possible that they aren’t dreams at all, but out-of-body experiences?
  5. The cells that build up the human brain can store up to 5 times more information than the entire Encyclopedia Britannica?
  6. The brain continues to send signals in the form of electric impulses for approximately 37 hours after death?
  7. If you stare at a person you’re sexually interested in, your pupils involuntarily dilate? The same happens if you stare at a person you hate.
  8. Kissing heals. Research shows that kissing improves the skin, helps blood circulation, prevents cavities and soothes headaches?
  9. Just like fingerprints and snowflakes, lips don’t leave identical marks either?
  10. Praying before meals improves taste and the nutritive properties of food and water? Masaru Emoto, the famous water researcher, has published reports on the subject.

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Psych Part II: Did you know that …

Psych: Did you know that …

  1. The human brain forgets 80% of what it’s learned in a day?
  2. The music you listen to influences the way you view the world?
  3. Romantic love is only slightly different from the obsessive-compulsive disorder (the purpose of which is to reduce anxiety, and not obtaining pleasure)?
  4. There’s a gene for pessimists that makes them see everything in a bad light?
  5. Spending money on others brings more satisfaction than spending it on yourself?
  6. Communication makes us more intelligent, and enhances memory?
  7. According to the more recent studies, genetics doesn’t really influence the IQ?

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Psych: Did you know that . . .

 

  1. Chocolate and booze release the same substances in your body as the feeling of being in love?
  2. People are more honest when they’re tired?
  3. A short hug of only 25 seconds can increase your trust in the person you’re hugging?
  4. People tend to be more logical when they think in a foreign language?
  5. No blind person has ever been diagnosed with schizophrenia?
  6. Your brain registers rejection as pain?
  7. The clearest memories you have are most probably false?
  8. Our unconscious mind is the one that knows and decides first?
  9. People can have close and authentic connections with around 150 other people?
  10. The human brain is more creative when it’s tired?

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What does your Caption choice say about you?

Take a look at the featured picture and decide – fast – which of the following captions best suits what you FIRST feel when you look at it.

  1. Flower
  2. Love
  3. Red
  4. Petals
  5. Black

Interpretations:

  1. Flower – you’re strong through being calculating, cool-headed, grounded; often attractive like a magnet through detached attitude, which comes across as a provocation.
  2. Love – you’re sensitive and strongly empathic, kind but not necessarily vulnerable; often attractive through calm, sweet, accommodating attitude.
  3. Red – you’re temperamental, fiery, and often make an impression as soon as you walk into a place; often attractive through magnificence.
  4. Petals – you’re spiritual, inclined towards philosophy, profound; often attractive through mysterious attitude, velvety gaze.
  5. Black – you’re inclined to the more obscure, deeply buried matters of the human mind and soul; often attractive through being fascinating.

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The secret ingredient of Happily Ever After is …

You may think it’s communication. Or sex. Or maybe kids, or not having them. Or money and long vacations. Or patience? Well, all of these things are surely important, but they’re not essential. The latest studies have produced an answer regarding the main ingredient of Happily Ever After, and that is – kindness. If you and your spouse are kind to each other, you’ll have a successful marriage, no matter how many kids, how many cars or how many vacations you spend together.

According to the psychologist Ty Tashiro, who in 2016 published the book The Science of Happily Ever After, only three out of ten married people have happy marriages. That’s less than half of us.

Imagine you come home with heavy grocery bags, and your spouse drools over a BMW saying something like: “Hey, look at that guy’s rims.” How would you react? Would you say something of the kind: “Oh, yeah, they’re really Sci-Fi,” or, “You know I don’t give a darn about rims?” Sure, the first reply is the most recommendable, because what your spouse wants is not your opinion about rims, what he/she wants is to connect with you.

It seems this kind of interaction has a huge impact on happiness in two. Responding to your partner’s emotional needs with genuine interest is what strengthens your bond most. In short, it’s all about how you treat your partner – are you kind or are you dismissive?

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