What does your Tarot Card say about you?

Important areas connected to the psychology of love that I so love diving into (and from which my romance novels have been born) are symbolism, occultism and astrology. Based on them I created personality tests that will bring you closer to discovering yourself as a lover – not only how you love but also how you’re loved in return. This personality test will reveal something about the kind of love you ignite in others. Please read the question below and the five possible answers. As always, try to make your choice in a relaxed state, and from the gut. Send the neo-cortex on a break, and dive into your subconscious.

Which of the following objects would you choose if they were presented to you on a tray under the moonlight?

  1. An ancient scroll
  2. A silver cross
  3. A black and golden star
  4. A scepter
  5. A lily

Interpretation:

  1. You’re a Magician. You have more power than you imagine. A fascinating mind, a knower of the heart and an alchemist lie at the core of your personality. You have the ability to manipulate energy. While you cannot influence specific people, your aura of power and wisdom will attract attention.
  2. You’re a High Priest/ess. Psychic, secretive and influential, your powers are subversive and relentless. You can connect to your love interest on deep levels and, with the right experience and training, even cause dreams and an inescapable telepathic connection. But for everything there’s a price. Use your talents well.
  3. You’re Death. Yours is a demanding, transformational and consuming type of love. The kind of love you ignite in others is addictive, dark, draining and, while the intensity is through the roof and you have the power to make yourself unforgettable, chances are your love interest will run for their lives and burn the bridges behind them. You’re Joe Black.
  4. You’re an Empress/Emperor. You’re the very embodiment of femininity/masculinity. Fertility/Authority is what you inspire, and you’re likely to be considered perfect marriage material. Mature, reliable, nurturing and protective/loving, the kind of love you inspire is the committed kind. It may well be that, if your love interest doesn’t feel ready for a committed relationship at the moment, they won’t give in to your charms.
  5. You’re a Lover (the Lovers card). You embody temptation, sweetness, the scent of infinity and perfection wafting over from the sea. You offer and inspire devotion, and you hold the promise of healing. You’re the lover where a love interest will find healing. You’re the person whose skin smells like home, but the way to that may be paved with great challenges.

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What do your Unrequited Loves say about you?

If even the smallest thing can say a ton about our personalities, then imagine what something as big as Love can reveal. This is the first of many posts that will focus on what our Love says about us. As always, I’m going to ask you to take a look at the quotes below, and choose the one that rings closest to your heart. It’s going to reveal something about the way you love, and even about how you’re loved in return.

  1. “Love is never lost, even if it’s unrequited. It returns to you and tames and cleanses your heart.” Washington Irving
  2. “I prefer a lost love to a love I never had.” Mircea Eliade
  3. “No man who loves should be called unhappy. Even unrequited love has its own rainbow.” James Matthew Barrie
  4. “Friendship is definitely the best cure against the disappointments of love.” Jane Austen
  5. “The fact that you love someone doesn’t mean they have to be yours. Love isn’t a bandage to cover your wounds.” Hugh Elliot

Interpretations:

  1. You have a gift to see the best in almost any situation. Your love is dedicated and often selfless, but also quiet. Beware of that. Some people fail to recognize worth unless you scream it.
  2. Your love is bold, daring, it uncovers its chest and invites the dagger. Passionate and profound, your wounds probably won’t stop you making the same mistake again and again. Your love is intense and addictive.
  3. You’re much calmer in retrospect than you are in the moment of heartbreak. You are a person who focuses on learning, growth and healing. In old age you’ll probably boast a lot of wisdom.
  4. You have a strong sense of self-preservation. Discerning and grounded, your love can be powerful, but almost always less important than reason. In your youth you maybe be/have been easier to intimidate or fool, but this is not the case in older years.
  5. Your love is heavy, serious and committed. But your sharp wit is the hell of a bouncer, so it’s very hard for someone to get in. You’re a fine judge of feelings (and maybe also character). You spot “faulted” loves from afar – co-dependency, Oedipus complex gone wrong, there’s no fooling you. You may be an intimidating lover.

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9 things you didn’t know about the psychology of love

There are special advantages to writing forbidden love romance – you learn secrets about the psychology of love. Here are a few gems I really wanted to share with you. And hey – plenty more where these came from.

  1. It takes less than 4 minutes to decide whether you’re into someone or not. In these 4 minutes your subconscious mind makes the decision based on the person’s physical appearance and non-verbal language.
  2. The effect that love has on the brain is similar to the effect of cocaine. Love causes the same kind of thrill, and the same kind of euphoria.
  3. When two lovers look into each other’s eyes, their hearts start beating in the same rhythm.
  4. Only looking at the picture of a loved one relieves pain – the lover’s face may act like a painkiller.
  5. Equally attractive people have higher chances at a balanced relationship. The same goes for equality on all levels. The more levels you and your partner are equal on, the more likely it is for your relationship to be successful.
  6. Apparently the brain isn’t wired to feel attracted to body shapes. It’s always the face that pushes the button. This basically means that an attractive body isn’t as important in attracting a partner as society lets us feel.
  7. The butterflies in your stomach are caused by adrenaline. When you feel the butterflies of infatuation, you’re in the fight or flight mode typical for dangerous situations.
  8. When you feel attracted to someone, your pupils dilate.
  9. Psychologists and researchers have discovered that people’s lives, goals and very existence revolve only around love.

Enjoyed this? Stay tuned for more soon, and feel free to roam the site for a whole lot of goodies from personality tests to hot psychology facts and suspenseful forbidden love stories. I’d love to hear from you, so feel free to leave me your ideas and opinions in a comment. I’m all about the discussion at the end of the game : )

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The secret ingredient of Happily Ever After is …

You may think it’s communication. Or sex. Or maybe kids, or not having them. Or money and long vacations. Or patience? Well, all of these things are surely important, but they’re not essential. The latest studies have produced an answer regarding the main ingredient of Happily Ever After, and that is – kindness. If you and your spouse are kind to each other, you’ll have a successful marriage, no matter how many kids, how many cars or how many vacations you spend together.

According to the psychologist Ty Tashiro, who in 2016 published the book The Science of Happily Ever After, only three out of ten married people have happy marriages. That’s less than half of us.

Imagine you come home with heavy grocery bags, and your spouse drools over a BMW saying something like: “Hey, look at that guy’s rims.” How would you react? Would you say something of the kind: “Oh, yeah, they’re really Sci-Fi,” or, “You know I don’t give a darn about rims?” Sure, the first reply is the most recommendable, because what your spouse wants is not your opinion about rims, what he/she wants is to connect with you.

It seems this kind of interaction has a huge impact on happiness in two. Responding to your partner’s emotional needs with genuine interest is what strengthens your bond most. In short, it’s all about how you treat your partner – are you kind or are you dismissive?

I’d love to hear from you guys, so please share your opinion and experiences in a comment. I’m looking forward to reading about you.

For more information, see the original article here (foreign version), but the source of all sources is available for you guys here.

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The 5 Languages of Love – Which One is Yours?

Dr. Gary Chapman is a famous counselor who “coined” the five languages of love that people “speak” and “understand” best. We often need and desire the very thing we offer, which is the very reason we offer it so much – to receive it in return (not counting the cases of narcissism, ego-centrism and some other I daresay “conditions” that hinder genuinely caring about fellow creatures).

These are the 5 languages of love that Dr. Chapman identified and explored:

  1. Speaking – you love compliments and you enjoy hearing “I love you;” you love being told the reasons for which you are loved, details about your lover’s feelings; you offer meaningful words in return, and you speak them from the heart; harsh words and insults hurt you deeply.
  2. Spending Time – you offer and desire full attention; you’re reliable and supportive of your partner when they need you; you make your partner feel significant and special by being there fully, focused exclusively on them; if they miss important moments or don’t spend enough time with you, you’ll feel hurt;
  3. Gifts – it’s not about the gift itself, but about the effort behind the gift – financial or different; you show not only your affection but also your respect by this means; you prefer being shown affection and respect the same way; the more valuable the gift, the more valued you feel – NOTE: this language of love has nothing to do with materialism;
  4. Service – Easing the burdens that weigh on your partner is your best way of expressing your affection; by making their life easier, you manifest your feelings; you’d like to be shown affection the same way; your partner’s laziness may be hurtful for you, because you take it as lack of affection;
  5. Physical Touch – you show not only your love, but a whole palette of feelings by touching; the way you stroke your partner’s cheek conveys a whole range of emotions tied to affection such as care and concern; you value physical presence, and feel most loved when being offered the same; physical distance or coldness can be hurtful to you, as you may interpret it as lack of love.

These languages of love apply not only to lovers, but to all people we feel affection for. What do you think is your language of love? I’d love to read from you.

 

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