What kind of Women do Men Really Like? – Psychology of Attraction

I’ve been conducting a survey, consulting specialty psych articles and talking to therapists. In doing so, I posed various questions regarding the Psychology of Attraction, and one of the biggest ones was – What kind of Women do Men Really like? I’ve listened and taken notes, then I’ve read and listened some more, just because it felt fair – we’ve been dealing with the kind of guys we gals mostly fall for and why, but what kind of women do men like?

We gals may have a stereotype in our minds that guys are only attracted to the 90-60-90 type of women, fat lips and slim waists, inflated boobs and scrunched brains, high cheekbones and short attention span, fully butts and empty stomachs. Well, here comes the verdict of the survey. The stereotype is – wait for it – tr… fall…..tru…..fallllll…… only partly TRUE.

Yes, physical aspect is very important for the guys. The Pamela Anderson stereotype is successful, but guess what? Not more than others. Men’s tastes in what they like in women vary, and they vary a whole lot, so discussing what you should look like to attract a partner is rather useless. The survey concluded in three tips about how to be attractive to men. Three tips that will never fail to matter:

  1. Grooming and Hygiene – Keep it to your own style, if decent or ostentatious, but be groomed. Grooming in truth matters because it latches on receptors in the male brain that tell the man you’re clean.
  2. Silence and Feedback – Not because men like stupid women – by no means, they do care about the kind of woman that appreciates them; no point if that woman is someone whose opinion no one holds in any special regard – but because silence often equals mystery, and because silence enables listening, which not only men, but people generally deeply appreciate. Listening shows the person that you truly do care about them and what they have to say. This is how men often lose their heads for women who don’t really have anything to talk about – they mistake that for mystery and being “a good listener.” The man gets the feeling that he “inhabits” the woman. Most men are “penetrators,” so feeling they “inhabit” a woman gives them the same kind of satisfaction in the psyche that sex does physically. This way the man can project his own Anima – the feminine part of his psyche – into the woman. In short, silence leaves room for fantasy. Giving feedback to what she is told by asking questions or offering an opinion – without making it about herself – only enhances the effect the silent woman has on the man.
  3. Modesty – People – not only men – are attracted to modesty (in combination with the two traits above; no point in smelling of sweat and being modest, even though the combo may have its moments in intimacy). The femme fatale type from the movies does have her fair share of the market, but the men who go for that kind of woman are NOT the rule. If the femme fatale does enjoy a measure of success, it’s mostly short-lived and restricted to the passionate part of a relationship. When the going gets tough, the femme fatale will get cheated on, dumped, or – if she’s lucky and the partner does stay with her – the guy turns out to be a psycho, stalker and often abuser with serious mommy issues. Or a poet.

We’ll go in on these subjects in following articles in the following weeks – Wednesdays will be for the exploration of Romance Tips, How to be Attractive, and Love Issues, so stay tuned. I’m deep in studies and research and interviews. Just a short disclaimer: There are always exceptions to the rule, and my studies aim to drill and go in-depth on the rule, not the exceptions. We are all unique, and I love conducting studies on one person alone (Personal Profiles), but I’m not at the liberty to disclose the findings publicly on the blog, but only to mingle them with the discoveries from other individuals, as well as with research and interview results, and thereby calculate the “rule.”

I’d love to hear your take on this first article of the series, your personal experiences and views. The real dissection of the matter only begins at the end of the post, with your comments 🙂 I’m looking forward to reading from you!


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Quiz 1 – What is your Calling?

We often wonder – what were we born for? What’s our purpose, our meaning? Why are we here?

On Thursday I promised you two new Series Quizzes. One of them reveals quiz after quiz What kind of Lover you are, while the series that starts tonight will guide you to discovering What your Calling is, and this is the first step. Please answer the following question, and be fully sincere in doing so. This is the first step to discovering your inclinations, talents, calling, your purpose.

Which of the following activities would you prefer on a rainy Fall evening?

  1. Watching a reality show.
  2. Reading a book.
  3. Playing cards with friends.
  4. Making love to your partner.
  5. Making plans for the future.


  1. Watching a reality show – you’re tired; your body, soul and mind first need a break from the speeding everyday life in order to get in touch with your true passions.
  2. Reading a book – you’re a scholar; you like accumulating knowledge and are good at conveying it further; you have inclinations to become a professor.
  3. Playing cards with friends – you’re very sociable; you like being and working with people, while also focusing on a task; you have inclinations to organize social gatherings and/or host them.
  4. Making love to your partner – you’re a born loving soul; your calling is nurturing and helping your loved one grow; you may have inclinations as a therapist, sex therapist/counselor or even nurse.
  5. Making plans for the future – you have inclinations as a strategist and manager; you are success-oriented and driven, you’re the “guy with the results;” with some experience, you could make a good business consultant among other things.

Enjoyed this quiz? Stay tuned for more of the What’s your Calling? Series Quizzes next Monday, but until then don’t miss the next quiz of the What kind of Lover are you? Series Quizzes on Thursday. And, until then, don’t miss the next episode of The Marquis tomorrow, when more loose ends will connect.

If you’re interested in a whole load of quizzes, check out many more of my quizzes here.

I’d love to hear from you. Please share your thoughts and feelings in a comment and, if you like, especially your chosen answer to this quiz. You know I’m always super curious : )


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QUIZ – What does your Perception say about you?

Words are a powerful window into the soul. Words reveal a lot about you. Take a look at the featured picture. What word do you feel describes it best?

  1. Fog
  2. Ship
  3. Moon
  4. Sea
  5. Clouds


  1. Fog – you enjoy exploring yourself and others, secrets never cease to fascinate you. You often intrigue and fascinate. You may be prone to and cause crushes.
  2. Ship – to you, life is a journey. You keep a clear head and you have an analytical mind. You’re calculated and hard-working.
  3. Moon – you’re highly intuitive and empathic. You’re a creature of the night. You’re often kind and understanding.
  4. Sea – you’re a free spirit. You’re wild and tend to do things exactly opposite from how you’re told to do them. You may have covert commitment issues.
  5. Clouds – you have big dreams and strong fantasy. You’re avant-garde and tolerant. You’re open minded and like being “different.”

So what did you get? Curiosity is eating at me, and I’m looking forward to your comments.

From the heart,



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One Image. One Word. What does it say about you?

Welcome to a new One Image-One Word personality quiz, in which I’ll gladly interpret each one of your answers.

Take a look at the picture above and share in a comment the first word that comes to your mind. Based on that I’ll get back at you with a few personality traits that word reveals about you in connection with the picture. Thank you in advance for sharing, and I’m looking forward to your comments! 🙂

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Quiz – One Image. One Word. What do they reveal about you?

Welcome to a new personality test, everybody, one that I’ve been looking forward to for quite a while.

Take a look at the picture above and share in a comment the first word that comes to your mind. Based on that I’ll get back at you with three personality traits that word reveals about you in connection with the picture. Thank you in advance for sharing, and I’m looking forward to your comments! 🙂

P.S. PLEASE DON’T FORGET ABOUT SATURDAY, THE MEET AND GREET DAY. If you follow blogs that are special to you and that have enriched your life, please share a link and a few words about them; I’ll check them out and maybe put them on my list. ALSO, IF YOU RUN A BLOG YOURSELF THAT FOCUSES ON OFFERING, HELPING OR SHARING, let me know, I’ll be sure to check you out 🙂

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Tell me your favorite Motto, and I’ll tell you who you are

A fellow blogger who’s inspired me to the Meet and Greet Saturday, has inspired me today once more. A while back I offered my oldest blog friends free personal profiles based on their birth data and life motto. As a profiler I’ve discovered that people’s mottos say a whole lot about their personalities, a fact that fascinated and intrigued me. You can learn a lot about a person by analyzing their life motto. Please leave your favorite motto in a comment and I’ll get back at you with three things your chosen motto says about you.

Also, if you have a special someone, a crush you’d like to know more about, tell me their life motto and I’ll tell you some of the traits they most probably like in a potential partner.

Be sure to subscribe to my blog by e-mail to receive notifications each time a new post comes up. Tomorrow a new personality quiz is up, a new gate to discovering more about yourself. Have a blessed Sunday!


“Whatever the mind can conceive, it can achieve” – Napoleon Hill


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QUIZ – What do your Arts say about you?

Welcome to a new Theme Quiz that will reveal what your choice of Art has to say about you. All you have to do is read the question, then the choices, and please make your decision within the first 5 seconds since the moment you understood what each choice means. Do NOT read the interpretations before you’ve made your choice, and be completely honest. Be completely true to yourself, this is a MUST for a correct assessment. And most of all – Enjoy! : )

Which of the following Arts represents you best?

  1. Painting
  2. Instrumental music
  3. Dance
  4. Singing
  5. A Craft


  1. Painting – you’re capable to see beyond appearances; you can see the beautiful in everything; you have an eye for hidden meaning and love exploring; you understand the symbolic and have a very rich inner universe.
  2. Instrumental music – you believe in the beautiful beyond the human; you search for what is beyond, for the greater, the perfect; you enjoy losing yourself in the ethereal;
  3. Dance – you’re connected to the world and to sensations; you’re grounded and dynamic and feel most alive when you experience sensations in your body; you’re a person of the physical, and may despise the exclusively “spiritual”;
  4. Singing – you believe in the bridge between the human and the divine; you believe humans can achieve the state of a semi-deity; to you, vocal music is the gate; you sense emotion in people’s voice; you have communication skills;
  5. A craft – you’re realistic and determined; you see most value in the useful; you’re reliable and focused; you search and find solutions; you’re a doer, but also have your daydreaming moments; the craft is your way of meditating.


Enjoyed this quiz? Plenty more where it came from. Check out the other quizzes in the Quizzes section on this site, and please share your feelings in a comment. I’m always happy to read from you.

Feel free to roam this site for many more goodies, especially the Short Stories of Suspense. Stay tuned for a new episode of The Marquis tomorrow for a suspenseful and thrilling ride. Enjoy!

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