The 36 questions that can make your crush fall in love with you – set 3 – final

And here we are with the 3rd and final set of the 36 Questions that can Make your Crush Fall in Love with you. Complex experiments run by reputed scientists over the course of years have revealed that not only chemistry has an important part to play in attraction, but that we may actively influence the process a well. Simply put, we can contribute to making our crush fall in love with us.

Check out the first two articles Set 1 and Set 2 of the 36 Questions that can Make your Crush Fall in Love with you. Now, here we go with . . .

Set 3

  1. How would you say that you and I (the dialogue partner) are feeling right now together?
  2. Finish the sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom to share . . .”
  3. If you were to become your dialogue partner’s close friend, what do you feel he/she should know about you?
  4. Tell your partner what you like about her/him; be very honest, and tell her/him things you wouldn’t normally tell some you’ve just met.
  5. Tell your partner about an embarrassing moment in your life.
  6. When was the last time you cried in front of someone? How about alone?
  7. Tell your partner the first thing you liked about her/him.
  8. If there was one thing too serious to joke about, what do you think that would be?
  9. If you were to die tonight without the chance of talking to anyone before that, what would you regret not having said to someone? Why haven’t you said it?
  10. If your house and all your possessions were on fire, after having saved all your loved ones including pets, what would be the last thing you would go back to save if there was still time? Why?
  11. Of all the people you care about, whose death would hurt you the most? Why?
  12. Tell your partner one of your problems and ask them how they’d solve it if they were you.

Note: In my opinion it would be best if you had a “facilitator”, a neutral someone to introduce the tasks for you when the questions aren’t direct (it’s best if you ask those yourself) or to create the context. Otherwise, some of this might feel kinda awkward, wouldn’t you say?

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3 types of love that impact your life dramatically

As a writer of romantic suspense imbued with psychological mystery I explore the topic of love in depth, and have been doing so for many years. Okay, I’m “using” it, too, like some people use drugs. I can never get enough of it. Love is the ultimate pleasure, and research has shown that human life does, indeed, revolve around love.

But love comes in many forms, and in this post (part 2 next week) we’ll look at the main types of love that impact us hardest and what they say about us.

  1. Love at first sight and secret love

Did you ever feel you fell in love as if “struck by lightning”, as soon as your eyes locked with another’s? Love at first sight is something you remember your entire life, it’s extremely strong, and puts butterflies in your stomach. But you must keep in mind that this kind of love is addictive. You soon feel you can’t breathe without the person.

What’s just as strong is the secret kind of love, as ravishing as love at first sight, only that it’s impossible to bring it to expression. This is the kind of love in which you hope that the other person feels the same, but it’s impossible for you to explore the relationship due to external or moral obstacles. This is the kind of love you might feel for a teacher, a married boss, your boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s best friend, your best friend’s ex; generally, people who are “off limits.” This kind of love often fuels romance novels, and they’re often inspired by real life situations – I’d love to hear your stories here, so please share in a comment, if you feel comfortable. Let us explore this further.

  1. Unrequited love

This is an extremely painful kind of love that everybody goes through at least once in a lifetime. In this situation you love someone intensely, but you’re aware this person will never love you in return. It’s a devastating but also transformational kind of love, the love that conveys most emotional maturity and depth. It’s a cathartic, purifying, and deep-drilling kind of love. Being tried and forged in this kind of love will ultimately make you a fascinating person.

  1. Obsessive love

This is the kind of love where one partner is obsessed or emotionally dependant on the other. One feels completely helpless and lost without their loved one. Unfortunately, obsessive love can only lead to the destruction of the couple because the way the obsessed person expresses their feelings hurts the other, limits them and/or conditions them. Obsessive lovers are often afraid and lack confidence, which is human, and obsessive love is something almost everybody experiences at one point in their loves. Whatever goes beyond that, nevertheless, (repeated or particularly intense loves that elicit questionable action) may be a sign of mental instability or mental disorder. Stalkers are “born” of obsessive lovers. Got stories? I’d love to read them! Leave a comment, if you feel comfortable, and let’s talk about it.

Feel like more love talk or personality tests that will reveal who you are? Feel free to roam this site for them in the upper sections like the “Personality Tests” section, or by scrolling down among older posts – there’s a whole lot to choose from there. On Twitter and Facebook we discuss hot matters daily, so stay tuned : )

 

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10 less popular truths about love

Psychology has shown more than once that human life revolves around love. A broad topic that’s been approached in all ways possible, and is yet far from exhausted. Especially us, writers, explore it in novels, short stories, novellas, seeking to satisfy our cravings and curiosities. One of my own personal favorites? – Is eternal infatuation with one partner possible? I’ve been exploring this one for a while now. Don’t get me wrong, I have deep appreciation for the “good wine”, the profound love that begins once the testosterone level has dropped and the juices of lust have dried, but I still relish it when voltage stirs the butterflies in my stomach. In my psychology research for my stories I came across many valuable pieces of information, and here is a sneak peak – some of the less popular truths about love.

  1. People look for very different types of love. Do not assume your lover is looking for the same as you are. You may be driven by a need for consuming love, while your partner seeks profound friendship. The variety is endless.
  2. You’ll like this one – You might mistake fear for indifference or irritability. Your partner may have chosen distance in order to protect themselves.
  3. You may be surprised by a desire to leave a partner that you love. Even by the desire of being with someone else. Such thoughts are normal, and they are born from fear. It is wisest not to act on them until time validates them.
  4. You’ll sometimes feel that you’re too good for the person you’re with.
  5. Having children does not strengthen relationships. It weakens them. Exhaustion and a feeling of being overburdened take a heavy toll. Work is required in order to grow from that.
  6. Keeping the romance alive over the years requires hard work and psychological finesse. Education on the subject is paramount. Read, read, read.
  7. You’ll often feel offended, and you’ll feel the need to insult back.
  8. The first time your partner will belch in your presence without apologizing will hit you hard. That’s when they’re getting too comfortable, and you’re starting to feel taken for granted. Yes, it’s the beginning of the end.
  9. Sometimes you may cause each other pain on purpose, and it’ll have nothing to do with fluffy handcuffs and red bedrooms.
  10. The greater the love, the greater the risk.

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Quiz 5 – What kind of Lover are You?

Welcome to Quiz 5 of the Quiz Series – What kind of Lover are You? Just like last time on the What’s Your Calling Quiz, this one will be crisp – it’s time to find out some of the darker sides of yourself as a lover.

Note: this may be more applicable for men (but not only!). The next quiz next week will be more applicable for women (but again, not only!)

For this purpose, please answer the question below with the utmost sincerity:

Which of the following would you bring to a romantic date?

  1. A rose
  2. A jewel
  3. A poem
  4. Condoms
  5. A business card

Interpretations:

  1. A rose – you’re a good manipulator; you’re charming, a seducer but sometimes also a heart breaker;
  2. A jewel – you know how to make your date feel valued; you follow your interest, you conquer and you possess;
  3. A poem – you’re an incurable romantic; you impress with your mind, you seek communication, but you might end up in the friend zone often;
  4. Condoms – you like to always be prepared; you’re well anchored in the mundane world; it’s hard for you to choose a partner; you might be busy with your work, or be easily bored with your dates;
  5. A business card – you love with your mind more than with your heart; you believe in the superiority of intellect over feeling; you’re prone to good arrangements, not good romances.

Of course, once aware of some of these things, they can be either sharpened or blunted according to your wishes. For that, you might need to know more. Stay tuned for the next quiz of the series next Thursday, but until then, make sure you keep an eye open for this blog, there are many more goodies to come.

If you’re interested in a whole load of quizzes, check out many more of my quizzes here.

I’d love to hear from you. Please share your thoughts and feelings in a comment and, if you like, especially your chosen answer to this quiz. I’m always happy to read them!

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Quiz 4 – What Kind of Lover are You?

Welcome to Quiz 4 of the Series Quizzes – What Kind of Lover are You? Today’s question is:

Which of the following descriptions do you feel suits you best? Do you feel you are

  1. The Sweetheart
  2. The Provider
  3. The Parental
  4. The Friend
  5. The Lover

Please keep as honest as humanly possible in choosing an answer, since it is absolutely necessary in order to get the right interpretation. Speaking of interpretations, here they are for each choice:

  1. The Sweetheart – You’re emotional and sensitive; you need love declarations and devotion, time and warm embraces; you offer the same, dedicating yourself entirely to your beloved; you’re idealistic and believe in “fantasy” and “perfect,” but this may cost you a good real-life lover; you may be shy or fragile, and many people underestimate how vulnerable you truly are; you’d adore an intuitive lover who can appreciate that about you.
  2. The Provider – You tend to the needs of your beloved, but this says much more about you as a lover than you might expect; you feel your lover’s needs as if in your own flesh, and you’d even die for the one you love; you’re quiet, but your feelings are profound; you’re not exactly exuberant or verbose in the expression of your love, but you won’t spare any effort to make sure your beloved is well taken care of; capable of sacrifice and selflessness, nothing hurts you more than betrayal.
  3. The Parental – You’re protective, but you also secretly think you know things better than your beloved; you can’t help feeling that they’re alone in the world without you, and that you’re the mature one who should steer their decisions; you’re reliable and always there for your beloved, and you’re giving the relationship your heart and soul; you can be demanding and your lover might sometimes feel smothered and even oppressed, or it can be the other way around – your lover may be clingy and immature in your eyes.
  4. The Friend – You place great value on your beloved’s trust; you want them to feel completely safe with you, and you’re able to put up with the darkest secrets in order to achieve that; to you, durability isn’t in the love, but in the respect and intimacy; you desire complete intimacy with your beloved in order to reach the peak of true love; you need to truly know them, and you also need them to know you – not as thoroughly, though; you prefer to keep “safe” by keeping certain things only to yourself.
  5. The Lover – You’re a lot about sensuality and physical intimacy; the sweetness of love-making or consuming passion helps you understand your lover on a deep level; to you, the physical aspect of the relationship is very important because you’re a tactile person who experiences and knows the world through their senses above all else; you can put it this way – you “decode” your surroundings and your lover through your senses; you suffer greatly if you’re denied the physical part of a connection, and don’t completely feel it; to you, the connection cannot survive without physical love.

If you enjoyed this quiz, stay tuned for more of the What kind of Lover are you? Series Quizzes on Thursday.

If you’re interested in a whole load of quizzes, check out many more of my quizzes here.

I’d love to hear from you. Please share your thoughts and feelings in a comment and, if you like, especially your chosen answer to this quiz. I’m always happy to read them!

 

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