How to Discover Your Calling

It’s hard to find out who you are these days. Society boxes us into categories it needs, focusing on the economical aspect of our usefulness – plumbers, doctors, electricians, lawyers, writers, teachers, day laborers, interns (oh yeah, that’s a great invention – unpaid work, how cool is that). But no matter how diverse and colorful these categories may be presented to us, they’re actually quite narrow and stiff. That’s pretty much why we often feel we don’t fit in – because no category employs what’s unique about us, that something that we and only we can offer.

We come to lack a sense of meaning – wonderful topic, by the way; I warmly recommend Auschwitz survivor and psychiatrist Viktor Frankl’s book, “Man’s Search for Meaning” for great insights on the subject (it’s a bestseller, and for good reason).

The good news is that there are short, direct and sharp ways to discover what’s unique about yourself, and I can help you with that. In the process you may realize that none of the world’s existing professions suits you perfectly though, but trust me, that’s a great thing. Anomalies are the key to progress. Think about it. Toothpaste was invented long before the first dentist walked this Earth – therefore giving rise to a whole industry – and the first and best addiction counselors were former addicts, not trained psychologists. Allen Carr, whose easy way to quit smoking has a success rate of 95 %, is a great example.

A passionate researcher on the topic of human uniqueness and potential, I developed a special kind of profiling based on general and educational psychology, as well as medical astrology. Here is a set of questions the answers to which will help you understand yourself better and get really close to what’s unique about yourself:

  1. How do you spend your work/ school breaks? (Examples: chatting with peers, checking facebook,  newspapers, blogs, cigarettes, sex, etc.)
  2. What subjects interest you most? (Examples: vacations, fashion, dog food, etc.)
  3. Do you have hobbies? What are they?
  4. What kind of entertainment do you prefer? (Examples: movies, theater or documentaries, books, etc.)
  5. What genre of movies/books/documentaries do you prefer? (Examples: romance, thriller, mystery, travel, glamour, people, etc.)
  6. What kind of sports do you do, if at all?
  7. What’s your favorite book of all times? If you’re not a book person, what’s your favorite movie of all times?

Leave the answers to these questions in a comment below, and I’ll get back at you with what the analysis of your answers has revealed as to your predispositions, talents and vocation. If you want to go in depth on it, leave the answers in a comment, and send me your birth data (date, time and place of birth) at anaatcalin@gmail.com. Within a couple of days I’ll get back at you with a personal profile. Note that I do this for free, and while working on the profile I’ll be focusing on you and you alone. I won’t be using an all-the-way standardized system.

I’ve applied this method first on myself years ago and discovered that my passions are psychology research and writing. I love people, and people inspire characters, whose humanity I like to take into fantasy. A big chunk of my upcoming novel, “The Executioner” Part I – suspense, thriller – is available for free here, and the whole novel is coming live in only a couple of days, on the 4th – 5th of September, depending on your timezone. It will be up for a big Kindle giveaway for a whole week, so check it out and grab it. Looking forward to you!

12 thoughts on “How to Discover Your Calling

  1. I just can’t pass up one of you quizzes, so here goes: 1) Breaks are primarily spent in discussions with coworkers about our common interests or messenging with someone special. 2) My most interesting subject is history with a focus on military history from the early Greeks to present. 3) Hobbies are shooting sports and knife making. 4) For entertainment I like to listen to music, write, or watch cultural or nature and science documentaries. Are you bored yet? Okay, I’ll continue..5) For movies I like action adventure or psychological thrillers. 6) I primarily do shooting sports. I also like hiking and camping. 7) I actually have a lot of favorites but in recent times it would be Dan Simmons’ Hyperion Cantos, it is mind bending and expanding if you pursue the back information on the thousands of historical hints he uses in the story. It will be interesting to find out if I’m best suited for a vocation I’ve never spent time in. 😀

    1. It would seem, my dear muse, that you got your career in life just right. It’s partly what I meant a few days back when I mentioned the contrast I sensed in you through our discussions. That someone as kind and loving as you can be actually so good in a line of business such as yours. It’s a profound, tricky subject. I do believe it’s your core calling.

      1. Thank you, Ana! I’ve always felt my current work was a true calling and since 2002 when I started this job, it has been very rewarding work. I think Forest Ranger in Yellowstone National Park would have been fun too but everybody wants that job and the waiting line is longer than the time I have left on the angry blue planet 😀

  2. I would also add to consider things that you have been interested in in the past, but believe they’re not available to you. This happened to me – I didn’t allow myself to explore something (that I believe is my calling) because I believed it wasn’t available to me. Now I’m finally pursuing it, and it just feels right.

    1. You are perfectly right, Kathryn. From this point of view the final battle is fought between dream-job and useful-job, I think. We all want to feel useful, and often fail to see that we can be useful in our dream job. Great insight!

  3. I like these quiz questions of yours 🙂

    1. I spend the breaks chatting, checking social networks and reading stuff on the net.
    2. Subjects that interest me are psychology, politics and sport.
    3. Hobbies: reading, listening to music (and dancing), sport.
    4. Movies, football games, books and articles.
    5. I like books for self improvement, thrillers and psychology books. From films I love watching action films and comedy, rarely drama and never horror films.
    6. Mostly I watch football, but I like doing walks and doing exercises.
    7. My favorite book since probably when I was 10 or less is Robinson Crusoe from Daniel Defoe.

    1. Thanks so much for sharing, I really appreciate it! We have a lot in common, I see… well, maybe except for the football games and the favorite books. Oh, yes, no horror films, same with me 🙂

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